Author: Deborah Fike

Embracing Your Flaws to a Happier You

“There is a kind of beauty in imperfection.” – Conrad Hall Benjamin Franklin famously tried to be the perfect person.  He understood he had flaws, but he strived to change them.  He created a list of 13 virtues and would make detailed notes of which ones he broke on any given day.  He vowed to tackle them and attributed his habits of self-improvement to his success in life. For a very long time, I also tried to emulate this spirit of becoming a better human being in all aspects of my life.  I’d make lists of books I should...

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Why I Believe in Spiritual Growth

“It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question.” — Decouvertes In college, I lived in the same dormitory as a very bright, funny young woman.  She would pass out cookies to everyone on the floor.  Her smile and easy-going demeanor made her someone you could talk to.  She listened to me stress out over what major to choose, what classes to take.  I became decent friends with both her and her boyfriend my freshman year.  They appeared to be a happy pair with similar interests and personalities. At the end of the year, I found her weeping...

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The Power of Listening to Your Loved Ones

“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” – Bryant H. McGill For a large chunk of the English speaking world, 2016 has been a divisive political year.  Between the Brexit vote in the UK and the American presidential race, we have seen very sharp lines drawn between people with opposing opinions.  If you lived in either of these countries, odds are high that you were drawn into a political argument or two.  Given how much these two decisions affect international economics and politics, you probably faced a conversation even...

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Rediscovering Your Inner Teenager

We have some pretty negative stereotypes of teenagers, and honestly, that’s too bad.  While it’s true they can be moody, think they know everything, and have little respect for authority, those qualities often belie their strengths.  As a teenager, I remember feeling like I could do anything.  I channeled all those emotions into dreaming about life after high school.  The world welcomed me into its arms.  There wasn’t a single thing I thought I couldn’t do. I’m two decades past those high school days, but I’ve been tapping back into those memories to pick up novel writing again.  I’m...

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Breaking Down a Large Goal into Manageable Chunks

“Everybody has their own Mount Everest they were put on this earth to climb.” – Seth Godin When I graduated high school, I set a goal for myself: to write a novel.  However, between moving to a new town, trying to find my place on a big campus, and my studies, it seemed an impossible task.  I would start a novel only to abandon it within a few weeks, and when I picked it back up again, I couldn’t remember what I wanted to write about. It took me several years to figure out a system that helped me...

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