Author: Deborah Fike

Relationships Take Work (But Not In the Way You Think)

Have you heard of the seven-year itch?  The classic term describes how a marriage declines around the seventh year, largely because the two partners aren’t as satisfied with each other as they once were. My first serious relationship crashed and burned in a spectacular way around the seven year, so I’ve carried this idea around for quite some time.  Now my second marriage is closing in on the seven years, and for a while, I’ve waited for the other shoe to drop.  When will he become dissatisfied with me?  When will I start daydreaming about getting out of the relationship?  How...

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My Labor of Love

I’m writing this blog post purely out of love. This statement may sound forced, or worse, a lie.  You may think that I am writing this blog post for my own website, so this post generates website traffic and earns me money.   Blog posts also help me build my personal brand, giving me an edge on my resume. The truth is, if I were to look at writing for The Change Blog as a moneymaking or career-building opportunity, it would be a waste of my time.  I do not own the site (the affable Peter Clemens does).  I am...

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5 Situations to Stand Up for What you Believe In

We all know people who are very adamant (and vocal) about sharing their beliefs.  They have Facebook feeds chock full of pointed articles, status updates, and pictures that support specific causes.  Whenever you meet them in person, topics generally go straight to those causes, and if you are even remotely argumentative, you will spend the evening having a debate.  The world needs these types of people with strong belief systems who fight inertia and status quo in the hopes of making an impact.  I applaud their efforts when I agree that their causes are ones worth fighting for. I...

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Resolve to Love Yourself This Year

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” ― Steve Maraboli It’s been a while since we made our New Year’s resolutions, and all our vows are quite well-intended.  Exercise more.  Pick up a long-lost hobby.  Reconnect with friends.  Maybe you’ve been sticking to your resolution, or maybe you’re disappointed that you haven’t gotten things quite off the ground yet.  But no matter how things are going, I urge you to tack on one additional resolution this year: Love yourself as you are right now. I’m a...

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How to Cope When You Are Clearly In Over Your Head

No doubt, I had bitten off way more than I could chew. While I generally enjoy juggling many plates, I knew a few months ago that I had stepped over that invisible boundary of “busy” into “overwhelmed.”  That’s when I had decided to replace my old part-time teaching job to instead devote those hours to a startup business.  It was 100% the right move: working with former colleagues whom I respect (who respected me back), getting back into the startup business scene (which I love), and having a job that worked around my crazy parenting schedule (which takes up...

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